By now, most people should know that hitting on someone at the gym with a cringy pickup line is, more often than not, creepy. (And if you didn’t, well, it’s never too late for an etiquette brush-up.)

“A gym is not like a club or café,” Kristal DeSantis, LMFT, Austin-based therapist who offers couples counseling, tells SELF. In those spaces, “it’s kind of accepted that you may be approached, whereas the gym is more of a gray area.” It’s one of the few places people go to focus on themselves or decompress—not to fend off unsolicited “Sooo…do you come here often?” encounters. Not to mention, this kind of environment can make some people feel more vulnerable than usual; whether you’re in tight clothes that show a little more than you’re used to, or you’re makeup-free and drenched in sweat, it’s not exactly an ideal moment to end up on a potential partner’s radar.

That’s why, if someone does catch your eye, figuring out what to do next can leave you…conflicted. Despite all the warnings and horror stories, however, finding love with your gym crush is possible—and according to Olivia Lord, CPT, NASM-certified personal trainer at Crunch Fitness in New York City, it can actually work out beautifully in the end. After all, one of the most crucial parts of dating is making sure you have stuff in common, and with a fellow regular, you already share at least one mutual hobby, Lord tells SELF.

The key, though, is making your move respectfully. So, here’s how to shoot your shot…without earning the title of the local creep.

First, here’s what you shouldn’t do

A few golden rules to keep in mind before you start hitting on someone at the gym: Don’t hover around their machine. Don’t stare at them as they move from station to station, hoping to catch their attention. And whatever you do, do not comment on people’s bodies—not even in a “flattering” way. “Saying something like, ‘I love your glutes,’ can feel really creepy, as if you’re looking at them in a sexual way,” La Keita Carter, PsyD, licensed psychologist and owner of Institute for HEALing in Owing Mills, Maryland, tells SELF. In general, stay away from appearance-based “compliments” altogether because there are so many better ways to connect that don’t make someone feel like they’re being ogled at or objectified.

How to flirt at the gym without creeping them out

1. Wait for the right moment.

It’s not just what you say; it’s when. The fastest way to make things weird is by ambushing them mid-set or striking up a conversation while they’re wearing headphones and bracing for a heavy squat.

Instead, Dr. Carter recommends looking for moments when they’re not so preoccupied—when they’re refilling their water bottle, say, or grabbing their belongings to head out for the day. These are the times when they’re more likely to be open to a casual chat, she says—which can make all the difference between a welcome interaction and an intrusive gym faux pas. (But remember, don’t stalk them with your eyes either. Just casually scan the room while doing your thing rather than fixating on them and only them.)